Sexual Health

The use of drugs during sex can powerfully enhance the sexual pleasure and experience and that is usually why people use drugs for sex. It can increase your sex drive and give you huge bursts of sexually charged energy so that you can fuck for prolonged periods of time.

The common drugs used to enhance a sexual exprience are Meth, GHB, Ecstacy/MDMAAmyl and some might also be using ViagraIt's really important to find out the risks of using these drugs, particularly if you are going to mix these drugs and also be drinking alcohol. Some of these combinations are dangerous and if you are living with HIV, then there is also a strong chance that the drugs will have an interaction with your HIV meds. Be sure to visit the drug pages to read up on that.

There are some important things to be aware of if you end up using drugs with sex, this section will aim to give you what you need. But if it doesn't meet all your needs, contact your local AIDS Council or Alcohol and Drug Service at our GET SUPPORT page.

You might also want to check out these sexually adventurous men's pages below.

ACON's How Hard and VAC's Down An' Dirty

Crystal meth and sex

The Basics

What do all these terms mean?

WIR3D or WIRED refers to the type of sex gay guys have when they are using meth. 

PnP refers to Party and Play which means having sex with drugs.

Puff refers to the process of smoking meth through a pipe.

Blasting or Slamming means injecting.

Shelving means shafting a drug up your ass.

ChemSex refers to the type of sex that gay guys have when they have taken a cocktail of Methamphetamines, GHB and Mephedrone. It is largely a British and European term as it reflects more of the sex and drugs culture over there.

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We use the term WIRED to describe sex with meth on this site.

Hook Up Apps

It's no longer 1978 where you'd be going to beats, bars and cruising hot spots. The old school way of meeting guys involved more flirting, connection and getting to know eachother in the process. Well that still happens a bit, but with the vast majority of us having smart phones and access to technology, you'd be hard pressed to find a gay guy who didn't have a Grindr or Scruff profile. If you did, he might be the only gay in the village.

With all of us swept up in the digital age, for some, sex can be as easy as a press of a button and it's with this that comes the hook up culture on apps. This has completely changed the way many guys meet up and interact. Some might say it has created a void of intimacy and closeness and the central focus is now just sex. Which is totally hot, if that's what you're after, but there are others that are looking for a bond of emotional intimacy and connection as well as the hot sex. With Meth and GHB the sense of intimacy and connection is actually a drug created one, it isn't real. So just be aware of what it really is.

What's key for people to remember, is how you feel when you are hooking up and how you feel afterwards. Does it feel good for you or does it bring up other feelings that leave you feeling disconnected, maybe even more alone? Only you can really know and assess how this behaviour is impacting you. If you feel as though playing while substance affected and always getting on the apps to chase it is taking up most of your efforts and there isn't any time left for non substance related sexual fun, then this could be a sign that your sex life is becoming intertwined with your drug use and your drug use could be turning into a problem. If you feel like your drug use might be turning problematic, maybe CHECK YOUR USE.

Reasons Behind It

Why do some people use drugs for sex?

  • It provides a sexual freedom in the mind and takes away inhibitions, which can provide the feeling of overcoming any nervousness, anxiety or lack of confidence. 
  • To overcome the fear of being rejected, to boost self perception of fuckability. 
  • To overcome any feelings of shame.
  • To cope with stigma regarding living with HIV and/or hepatitis C.
  • To cope with a history of trauma, for example sexual abuse.
  • To escape feelings derived from internalised homophobia and self judgment about having sex with men.
  • To boost one's sexual energy and sex drive so that a play session can last for long periods of time.
  • People feel lonely or bored.
  • For connection and intimacy or to feel part of a community or group.
  • It can become a part of one's identity.
  • Because it can be seen as normalised within certain social groups.
  • Because it can be seen as normalised within hook up app culture.
  • Peer pressure or in connection to social situations or relationships which one might be involved in.

Living with HIV

Turning Tina

The Institute of Many (TIM) and Living Positive Victoria developed a harm reduction resource for queer men living with HIV who use methamphetmaines. This is a peer and community driven resource. You can read it online here.

WIRED Effects

  • You can end up having sex for long hours, sometimes days on end. Often this is without sleep.
  • The sex can end up being between two people or a bigger group and sometimes new people can turn up at a group sex party and you might not even know who they are or what their sexual health status is. So try to talk about safe sex before you play with new people.
  • It creates the urge to unlock sexual desires which you might ordinarily not consider doing when not WIRED. This means people can end up doing things they never thought they would do and may or may not have wanted to do so.
  • Incredibly heightened sex drive and sexual focus.

WIRED Risks

  • Major health risk are meth induced psychosis, paranoia and overdose. 
  • If you are really high, you might not be able to give consent to certain things and this increases the risk of sexual assault.
  • If you're slamming (injecting) meth then there are risks if you share equipment or aren't informed about how to inject properly. Read more at our Safer Injecting section.
  • There is a greater risk of being expsoed to STI's and HIV through condomless sex, as safer sex practices become less important. You need to know about PrEP.
  • Multiple and repeat use of PEP. Again, get the low down on PrEP.
  • If you are mixing drugs, it can increase the risk of harm and even overdose (i.e. between Alcohol and GHB/GBL).
  • For people living with HIV, there are some risky interatcions with HIV meds, particularly protease inhibitors. It can really amplify the power of Meth
  • For people living with HIV, because of the long party sessions that go on for days, it can impact the routine of daily dosing of HIV meds and result in a low adherence to ART treatment.
  • If you smoke Meth regularly and for long periods of time, it can impact your dental health.
  • With smoking Meth there is also an increase of risk with it causing harm to your mouth, gums and lips which can also increase the risk of exposure to blood borne viruses if you are sharing a pipe. Try to always carry your own pipe.
  • There are some significant mental health risks with long term Meth use, such as chronic depression, anxiety, paranoia, and psychosis.
  • If your use becomes problematic and dependant then it can have significant consequences to other parts of your life, such as employment, housing, financially, relationships and friendships. Set some limits for yourself so you can prevent your use getting the better of you.

Here is a video about the risks of using G.

Setting Limits

Set limits about your drug use and your play

  • If you are planning to party it's important to set limits about your drug use and what you plan to do, how much you plan to take and what you'll get up to when that is happening.
  • Keep an eye on your own drug use and the drug use of your friends when you are in the thick of it, it's easy to get carried away and sometimes you can take more than you wanted to, or start mixing drugs that actually don't go so well together and can be dangerous. Read up more on mixing drugs at our Alcohol and Drug section.
  • Set limits about how much you will take, consider only taking that amount out with you and leaving the rest at home.
  • Also, what will be your limits around when it's not fun anymore and it's actually starting to become a problem? It's different for everyone, but have a think about what your limits are and how you can track your drug use so that it remains within those boundaries.
  • It's also totally cool to slow down your drug use in the middle of a play session, just because others around you are doing it, it doesn't mean you have to keep up with them. 
  • When you are planning to hook up with someone, have open discussions about what you are up for and what you aren't up for. This can be about the kind of sex you want, but also the kinds of drugs you are up for using and how much. If you try to set up a plan before you start, it can make it a bit easier to stick to it when you are in the middle of a WIRED session.
  • Look into going on PrEP as well, because sometimes slip ups happen and you always want to be protected and PrEP works.

If you are planning to PnP or hook up with someone or join in on some group action where sex and drugs are involved, are you all going to be looking out for eachother? This includes making sure that people are able to consent to what is happening to them. It's only hot if both people are into it and have given consent. This means communicating with people and getting permission to get down and dirty. If someone is affected by alcohol or drugs to the point where they cannot conciously and verbally consent to sexual activity, then that is downright sexual assault.